Texting Etiquette when Dating

Texting adds a new dimension to the dating game. It allows you to establish a connection even before you’ve been on a date, it can deepen intimacy while you are dating and it allows you to flirt and add more fun to your relationship. However, there are also traps for the unwary. Here are some things to look out for.

1. Always be conscious that texting is a public medium, so don’t text or send anything that you don’t want to get out there. If you send a risque photo of yourself, be prepared for the possibility that it might end up in the wrong hands. 
2. Don’t accept a date via a text. If a man is not interested enough to pick up a phone or seek you out, then he is not worth your time and effort.
3. Don’t overabbreviate. It is irritating for the receiver to have to guess or interpret your message. It is okay to use commonly used abbreviations but otherwise, make the effort to spell out the message.  Your date/boyfriend will feel that they are worth your time and effort.
4. It is okay to flirt but don’t be risqué or vulgar. You want to intrigue your date, not raise false expectations or perceptions of you.
5. Be careful with making jokes. Without the tone and expression that comes with face to face communication, it is easy for a joking comment to be taken the wrong way when texted.
6. It is okay to exchange texts before a first date. Keep it light and fun. Find out a bit about them and their interests so you have something to talk about when you meet.
7. Don’t get into a fight via texting.If you take offence at something they’ve texted, pick up the phone to sort it out.
8. Don’t break up or cancel a date via texting. That is just bad manners. You owe them the courtesy of a personal conversation, whether face to face or by phone. It may be easier to text but think about how you would feel if someone treated you that casually.
9. Don’t text straight after a date. That just seems a little too overeager or desperate. Give it a few hours or even a day.
10. Don’t let texting be your main form of communication. Pick up the phone!Texting is fun and useful but can never be a substitute for real conversation.

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